The description of Vermeer's painting in Van Assendelft's collection could fit either A Lady Seated at a Virginal or A Lady Standing at a Virginal, both in The National Gallery of London.
It is not known if Van Assendelft acquired the painting from Vermeer himself. On the other hand, the artist may also have painted yet another damsel at a spinet which no longer exists.
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